I’m sure all of you have heard about this nasty virus spreading throughout the globe, known as the coronavirus.
The coronavirus is known to attack the lungs and make you feel as though you are suffocating, similar to how a narcissist suffocates you in order to gain control.
Do you wanna know what it’s like to parallel parent with a narcissist?
Do you wanna know how it feels to constantly feel like the other parent is alienating you from your child?
Maybe you do know how that feels, and if so, I’m so very sorry that you feel this.
So let’s start with what parallel parenting actually is.
Parallel parenting is what happens when two people can’t “ Co-Parent” so they choose a different option that involves very little to no contact or going through a middle man in order to limit the conversations.
It’s a whole lot easier to parallel parent with a narcissist rather than co parent with one, to say the least.
Although, either option you choose, if it involves a narcissist, then you’re in for one hell of a ride .
So, I bet you’re wondering now how this parallel parenting is gonna kill me before the coronavirus does, so let me explain.
For starters, parallel parenting in itself is a hard pill to swallow, so if you’re managing it with a narcissist, high five to you.
It’s like waking up everyday just waiting for the next scenario that will be made up about you.
It’s hearing your kid say something that you know came directly from the other parent just to tear you down.
It’s constantly trying to defend yourself and your family against false accusations.
It’s suffocation.
It’s just like the coronavirus, it rapidly gets worse and worse.
There’s no cure for it.
You try to take care of yourself and wash your hands to prevent it from spreading, but just like a narcissist it somehow finds you and everyone in your hometown to remind you that you’re still not doing something right.
It’s having to remind your child that you are their mother and no one can ever take that from you, no matter how hard they try.
It’s having to deal with the fact that no matter how great you are doing, in the eyes of a narcissist, you’re still doing it all wrong.
It’s constantly wasting your breath trying to remind this person how they’re not perfect and they should look in the mirror, while they repeatedly point the blame to you.
It’s hearing things like “ You’re a sorry excuse” and “you’re a no good mother” and trying to bite your tongue because standing up for yourself will only hurt you in court.
It’s waking up without your child, only to see pictures of your child with the other parent and their significant other all over social media, but if you did the same, you would be bashed for it.
Its contemplating suicide .
It’s manipulation.
It’s down right nasty, just like this virus soaring around our towns.
You can disinfect your entire house from the toxicity , but you’re still not safe.
I feel like I’m suffocating.
Sometimes my chest feels tight, because I can’t breathe.
I start to panic.
Is my child believing all of the things they’re being told by the other parent?
Does my child think I’m a bad mother?
Sometimes the mind takes over the body and you can’t control it any longer.
There’s certain things you can do to prevent the coronavirus, but parallel parenting with a narcissist is something you can’t seem to escape from.
Unfortunately I can’t just spray Lysol on it or drop some thieves oil and make it go away.
This is a carousel, but the carousel never stops turning.
You can’t get off.
I don’t know what hell on earth will feel like, but I can bet it’s equivalent to this.